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I(25f) and my Husband (30M) and I got married last Friday. We planned our dream wedding down to our dream catering company.

The wedding was beautiful after the pictures we headed to our cocktail hour, and that's when I saw her. My guest were all told to wear dark colors so my husband and I stood out, I also asked my guests to wear minimal makeup. I had assumed that applied to the staff too.

The server(19ishf) had on clearly too much eyeliner. she also had diamond studs in her ears a flashy ring, and one of those ugly nose studs. The staff's uniform was a black long-sleeved shirt but on her, it was too low cut and her pants were far too tight.

It was super distracting. she was walking around serving drinks and talking to my guests. I asked another member of the staff to speak to their boss. when their boss came out I pointed out the server and asked that she be dealt with cause she was super distracting. their boss apologized and called the server back into the kitchen.

not even an hour later the server was back out serving food for dinner. I called the boss over again and asked if the server could work in the back or go home. Her boss said they were short-staffed tonight so she would see what can be done.

after a couple of hours of not seeing her, I saw the server again behind the bar. I called the boss out one last time and told her if the server didn't leave I would be calling the cops. the boss finally relented and told the girl to go home.

My husband and mother-in-law said I was acting crazy and that I probably got a poor college kid fired over nothing. My mother and MOH said it's my wedding so I can do as I please. It's my wedding and I don't want someone over-shining me and the server should know she's at work and not dress up so much. I do feel kind of bad because she was pretty young.

The commenters on the r/AmItheAsshole subreddit overwhelmingly agree that the letter writer behaved absolutely terribly. “‘My wedding, my rules’ applies to things like cake flavors and decorations,” one of them writes. “It doesn’t apply to terrorizing a catering company and its employees.” Read the rest of their answers.

When COVID hit, my boyfriend and I — who already lived together — began spending every waking minute together, as we were both working from home. I honestly loved it. I never get tired of him. For the past two years, I love that we have been able to eat lunch together every day, chat with each other between meetings and be in each other's presence 24/7.

Recently, he told me that his company would fund him renting an office at a coworking space, and he is going to do so. I offered to come with him some days, and he said that he would be more productive if he went by himself. I can't help but be offended by this. I get the appeal of having an actual office space, but why would he want to go back to being apart all day?

Annie Lane advises the letter writer to schedule lunch with their boyfriend regularly. “Just because your boyfriend wants his own space to work does not mean he doesn't love you and miss you throughout the day,” she writes. “A little space is a good thing in a healthy relationship.” Read the rest of her answer.

I recently had dinner with my ex-husband. Our divorce was finalized nearly two years ago, and we had not spoken since. I was hoping that we could reconnect and perhaps explore the possibility of a friendship. I’m not sure what I was expecting when we met for dinner, but I wasn’t expecting the outcome that I got.

Halfway through the night, I asked him how he has been dealing with our divorce. His response was that he was completely OK with the fact that we got a divorce, and he knew it was for the best. He seemed as if he did not care that it happened at all. I’m not sure why this hurt my feelings so badly, as I am the one who filed for divorce in the first place, but I’ve been in a funk about it for days. Am I wrong to feel this way?

Harriette Cole urges the letter writer to figure out why they expected their ex’s reaction to be different. “Sit down, determine what you want and figure out if your desires are realistic,” she writes. “You severed ties with him. Perhaps that’s simply the end.” Read the rest of her answer.

I have a handyman doing work on my home. I noticed that when he uses the bathroom, he is in there a while and going number two. My anxiety levels are through the roof. Do I tell him anything, and what should I say?

Abigail Van Buren encourages the letter writer to be gracious. “If your handyman leaves the bathroom in the same condition when he exits as when he goes in there, you have nothing to be ‘anxious’ about,” she writes. Read the rest of her answer.

I’ve always been sensitive to the spirits of the dead. My mom told me that when I was little I used to “play” with my deceased grandfather, I often know things that I have no other way of knowing, and generally, I can just sense a presence sometimes. Except for a few terrible childhood field trips to battlefields, I’ve always found it comforting — most spirits are gentle and not all that interested in people they didn’t know in life, and I enjoy the fact that even when I’m alone, I’m not really alone.

A few months ago my dad passed away (my mom passed years ago). I inherited my parent’s house, and my husband and I decided to move in and grow our family to fill the space. The thing is, my parents won’t leave me alone! Recently, my husband and I were in our bedroom working on “growing our family” and I sensed my dad, which ruined the mood. My mom definitely disapproves of the fact that I tore down her dining room wallpaper. And they both showed up in the middle of a petty argument we had, and took sides! I did not sign up for moving back in with my parents.

I know from experience that the dead don’t take orders from the living, and I really like the idea of my children growing up in a house infused with their grandparents’ spirits, so I need to get over this. How can I get used to having my parents hovering over my shoulder all the time?

Jenée Desmond-Harris offers the letter writer a script for cleansing their home of spirits. “Say, ‘By the power of all my good karma, direct connection to Source, agape love, and selfless acts, I ask the universe to please remove all negative entities from this house,’” she writes. Read the rest of her answer.

My niece just had a baby girl! I’m a proud great-uncle.

But the first picture that my brother posted was of his daughter breastfeeding the baby! This is the first time I have ever seen this!

Is this commonplace now? Or has it ever been?

My fiancé is as dumbfounded as I am!

Amy Dickinson asks the letter writer if he would have objected to a picture of his niece bottle-feeding her child. “The decision to share or keep breastfeeding private should be a parent’s prerogative,” she writes. “Women feeding babies should not be seen as an embarrassing, shameful, or dumbfounding thing.” Read the rest of her answer.

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That doesn't really answer the question though. Is this a common thing?

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